The Importance of Tiny Leaps

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It’s hard out there.  Living life and getting caught up in the day to day while trying to be an adult to pay the bills and take care of those that you love. Before you know it, you feel like you’re just surviving or existing, living this apathetic slow march to retirement (if you think you will be able to retire that is).  You feel as though you are missing out on what you’re supposed to be doing by living life to the fullest…whatever that means. You may not know what that looks like for you, but you do know that something is missing.

Life is happening while you are waiting for it to happen.

I have countless clients who walk into my office that say “something is missing”.  Call it purpose, meaning, or happiness it really doesn’t matter what it actually is because when they sit on the couch and begin the soul searching it quickly becomes overwhelming. How can they begin to live a fulfilling life when all they’ve known and been taught is how to survive? It is overwhelming. You’re trying to change you mindset and life in a few therapy sessions. That’s a lot to change about you.

As a therapist and coach I face this every time I start with a new client. They present a problem and I want to fix it. 

All of it. At once.

Preferably in 5 therapy sessions or less. It’s an instinctive impulse to want to fix it However, through my years of experience we know that unless you went to Hogwarts’s School of Witchcraft and Wizardry, that’s not going to happen.

Slow and steady wins the race. Every. Time.

Just because it can’t be fixed at once doesn’t mean it can’t be fixed at all. Small steps (or tiny leaps) are the secret ingredient to success in any kind of endeavor. If you came to me and said you wanted to become an astronaut and expected to become one in the next few weeks, I’d politely refer you to a reality check. If you were willing to break down all the steps with me that you will need to go from where you are now to what it would take to become an astronaut, then we could move on to the next question, is it realistic? For most, becoming an astronaut isn’t realistic; but luckily working towards a life where you feel present and joyful definitely is doable.

One step at a time.